Pleasure and Happiness.... Can we have both ?three month test can show you how

One of Aristotle’s philosophies is that many people are unhappy because they foolishly confuse pleasure for happiness – when the two are incredibly different.

1. Pleasure is about immediate gratification and merely brings temporary joy, which is unsatisfying in the long run.  Basically, pleasure is about immediate fleeting gratification of the body and ego.
2. Happiness creates joy that is lasting, because it’s all about growing into your highest potential – your best favorite you.  True happiness comes when you surround yourself with people and experiences which increase your soul’s self-development – hence the joy lasts as long as you last.  The joy created becomes an integral part of who you are as a unique, and thriving individual.

One thing for sure is the three month test.
3 months is the time needed for him to show his true colors.  And women don’t think your getting off free and clear.  We all know women are even worse than men !  and we don’t mean to do it, but do it, we do.  They call it a form of a natural process of the Cinderella theory.  We want our prince charming AND WE KNOW HE IS OUT THERE, somewhere.  We meet, they sweep us off our feet thus losing our shoe, and they go to extremes to get back to us again.  So they make it a point to let us know they are thinking of us and care.  Hmmm….  How nice, how special…  that’s what we feel, this man finally cares enough that he is thinking of me even when we’re not together !!  Awe !!! He is a keeper !!  ???  WRONG, and we as women, experienced the feeling, know he is capable and want it back.  We actually think we will get it back and we do, at times. Even so, the emotional dance of love can take a toll on you.  Doing the same thing over and over, produce the same results.
The more you move towards him, he will back away.  Once you decide you’ve had enough and pull away and start focusing on yourself, he’ll come running.   Eve ate the apple and was punished.  I believe this is how she was punished…  by the relationship dance.  You look away, he is focused on you.  Your focused on him, so he looks away.  It’s sad really.
So what do you do….  ?  

1. You focus on yourself, take your time getting dressed, putting on make up, your hair. Just like you did that first 3 months.
2. Take long bubble baths bath. Use scented candles, relax and leave the door wide open, if possible.
3. When he makes plans for golf and so you make plans to go shopping with a friend, then his plans get cancelled and he says “let’s go see that movie you’ve been wanting to see ” tell him sorry your plans were cancelled, let me know how you like the movie, I’ll probably watch it next week.
4. Don’t allow them to make you the villain and them the victim. Once they don’t have plans they will expect you to be home with them.
5. Buy sexy sleepwear every month or two. Keeps him eager for bed without realizing why.
6. Every now and then….Be quiet at the dinner table. He’ll wonder why. 
7. Leave him sexy notes in place where you know he will find it within the day.

By the way ladies, you’re better off remembering that a relationship begins and ends with friendship.  If you don’t like him as a friend, you’ll never stand him as a husband.