One of Aristotle’s philosophies is that many people are unhappy because they foolishly confuse pleasure for happiness – when the two are incredibly different.
One thing for sure is the three month test.
3 months is the time needed for him to show his true colors. And women don’t think your getting off free and clear. We all know women are even worse than men ! and we don’t mean to do it, but do it, we do. They call it a form of a natural process of the Cinderella theory. We want our prince charming AND WE KNOW HE IS OUT THERE, somewhere. We meet, they sweep us off our feet thus losing our shoe, and they go to extremes to get back to us again. So they make it a point to let us know they are thinking of us and care. Hmmm…. How nice, how special… that’s what we feel, this man finally cares enough that he is thinking of me even when we’re not together !! Awe !!! He is a keeper !! ??? WRONG, and we as women, experienced the feeling, know he is capable and want it back. We actually think we will get it back and we do, at times. Even so, the emotional dance of love can take a toll on you. Doing the same thing over and over, produce the same results.
The more you move towards him, he will back away. Once you decide you’ve had enough and pull away and start focusing on yourself, he’ll come running. Eve ate the apple and was punished. I believe this is how she was punished… by the relationship dance. You look away, he is focused on you. Your focused on him, so he looks away. It’s sad really.
So what do you do…. ?
By the way ladies, you’re better off remembering that a relationship begins and ends with friendship. If you don’t like him as a friend, you’ll never stand him as a husband.